Feel Blessed To Be In Solitude

‘Lonely’- a state of life many of us fear of being through this. We all pray to be happy, always surrounded by loved ones and friends but usually none of us pray to be lonely. Even few people consider loneliness is curse to human life.

But not always, sometimes being lonely can be good for ones life. Its human nature, we mainly see the negative side of everything but skip out the positive factor. Same in this case also.

"The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline towards the religion of solitude."

                                -Aldous Huxley 

Being lonely, spending time with one self without any interruption can benefit our mind to focus and think more clearly. One can also achieve peace of mind which helps us discover ourselves due to which we get to know our self more accurately like what need and what we don’t, what is good about us, what is bad about us, which things we need to rectify in us and in which sector of us we need to emphasis more to make ourselves a proper human being.

Many times we feel exhausted and tired of life; spending time with yourself, knowing yourself better can help you to regain the energy to take proper decisions and to fight back.

 It even enlightens our self to achieve a stable and calm life.

"Solitude is the place for purification"

                                   -Martin Buber

Solitude lets our subconscious mind to meet with our conscious mind due to which we able to solve out many difficulties and doubts of our life. Because many times our subconscious mind has that answer which our conscious mind can’t suggest, of any doubt or difficulties we are going through and can help us to lead our self's towards right direction.

So always, being lonely is not a curse to ones life but it can be a lot beneficial. What we only need to do is to see the brighter side of things. Therefor we all should manage time from our busy schedule to spend time with one self.

"The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind."

                                                   - Albert Einstein

Bag-O-Holic

Hello my reader friends today my write up is totally on different topic from my last few write ups, it’s on fashion haul. From my teen age I am crazy about bags, wallets, clutchers etc .etc therefore whenever I pass by any bag shop its must for me to buy at least one…. Same happen recently when I went to new market last week to shop few things for my sis but as I was passing by the bag stalls at the outer pavement of the market and couldn’t stop myself to buy one…but at last I actually bought  Four bags and two wallets…which am going to share with you all….

The texture of this bag is leathery. Spacious and easy to carry, with an extra allotted space for umbrella… the MRP of this bag is Rs.480 but after bargaining I got them at Rs.350 each.

This bag is of same texture like the previous one…but its smaller than the previous one.

MRP- Rs 350, after bargaining I bought it at Rs.200.

Hand bag, MRP Rs.150, bought it at Rs.100. It can be well paired with the red bag above…

Hand bag, MRP- RS.200, Bought it at Rs.180 and we can pair this hand bag with any of those blue bags above.

This one is of medium size…with a glossy texture..

MRP- Rs.400, Bought it at Rs.200.

This is my 1st fashion haul, will come back with more exiting ones further......till then like and comment on your views about this blog...thank you!!

Peace, Love, Paws

‘The only creatures that are evolved enough to convey pure love are dogs and infants’

                         -Johnny Depp

Love is natural…..hate is not, fear is not, pain is not, and dogs are one of the absolute proof of this. A dog loves you unconditionally, and we should learn from these angels as they are the perfect example of true and unconditional love.

And I feel enough lucky to be blessed by such beautiful creation of GOD. May be for many they are just animals but the one who have a dog can understand what they actually mean to the family.

Presently, we lack a true friend to be with us in our ups and downs……few are busy with their own lives, careers and family whereas others are with us only for their own benefits and are less concerned or interested about us. But the furry member of our family is always there to support us and stay beside us in our both good and bad time. And maximum time they convert our bad moods into supper good mood.

If we are sad, not going through a good phase they will sense it even if we don’t shared it with them and they try their best to comfort us with their love and company. They are the real magicians who vanishes your pain, sadness just within few minutes of their company.

When we go out at the morning and leave them alone at home for the whole day, it’s the most annoying thing for them and they really became angry on us and wait for us for the whole day. After we come back home at evening, they welcome us as well as share their love by wagging their tails and licking all over our face. At that moment they automatically forget that they were angry on us due to the excitement of seeing us after a whole day…this is how a dog’s love is.

If we feel sad, they make us smile…. If we cry, they try to be our relief….. And if we are all broken and feel alone, they are always there beside us to heel us with their unrestricted love.

They are the ultimate resource of peace. When we get tired of fighting and competing with this world, the company of a dog can give us peace of our mind.

With their love they make each and every day special and memorable…..they loves us more than we love ourselves even they do understand our feeling better than us. They are the best therapist a human can have.

A dog is not the whole world for his master, but for a dog his master is more than his life. So love them a lot, spent as much as time you can, they do have very short life so make it beautiful and best life.

Zion ( 3 years old, black Labrador) & Lute (3 years old white & golden Crocker Spaniel) :
They are my angels. I still do remember the day they became our family member and from then
they made our life beautiful. 

Fear Factors

‘HORROR FILMS’…….. this genre brings in viewers from all over the world and from every caste of life. Recently the craze for horror movies is in high among every age group. Starting from a youth to eighty years old are all equally driven towards this genre, even children below fifteen are also showing interest towards this genre.

As we all know every coin have two sides, similarly along with entertainment this genre also leave bad impact in our mind especially in a developing mind, like mainly on children within age fifteen but it can also create negative impact on a human between ages thirty because after thirties a human brain can be called as matured brain.

Horror films, when done well and with less reliance on horrifying special effects, can be extremely potent film forms, tapping into our dream states and the horror of the irrational and unknown, and the horror within man himself. The best horror films only imply or suggest the horror in subtle ways, rather than blatantly displaying it. In horror films, the irrational forces of chaos or horror invariably need to be defeated, and often these films end with a return to normalcy and victory over the monstrous.

We can easily assume that by watching these kinds of genre will leave an effect over the psychological status of adult human being along with children.

To emphasis this I am sharing  an old interview taken by me on this topic of Dr. Sanjay Sen, MBBS (Cal), DPM(Dublin), MRCPsych (London), CCST (UK), Consultant psychiatrist. This was mainly focused on the impact of this genre in a child’s mind.

Effects imbibed by a child from horror genre….

The brain of a child develops in every fraction of time; therefore they easily can create an imaginative, supernatural world around them. A child’s brain get stimulated when he/she witness something new or something unusual or the things which use to create a sudden shock over them. And then they start imagining about them, this deep imagination of theirs use to draw them away from the truth and force them to believe the unreal imagination of theirs to be true. Now it depends on the film that the impact will be negative or positive on a child. The horror films which contain slaughtering someone’s head with sword, chopping out of hands, dripping down of blood from face or any violence and cruelty can effect negatively upon a child’s brain while a positive effect can also shadow over a child’s brain if the movie is more about mythological horror stories.

Particular objects that effects negatively on a child’s mind……….

Previously, horror films does not use to affect a child like now a days, because the presentation of a horror movie was a lot fantasising and mythology based but now a days each and every horror films contain violence, aggression and cruelty this particular things effect upon a child’s mind negatively and can also make them traumatic.

Age group which imbibe the negative effect of horror genre easily……..

Aggression and violence are always being modelled by human being maximum time at any age. Likewise a child use to model violence and cruelty from a horror genre, which helps to develop negative impact upon their mind. Sometimes there can be a genetic role also. So, any aged child within the period of their brain development can imbibe negative effect easily.

After doing a survey I got to know that many children suffered from short term trauma after watching horror genres, so can this short term trauma ever covert into any big psychological problem in future?

Yes, it obviously can. The main emotional developments of a child start from the age of 4 and continue till adolescent. All the emotional behaviours (like how much a person will become nervous, how much a person will become tension prone, whether a person will became pessimist or optimist, how much emotional warmth one will have, how to behave in a critical situations and how to deal with it..etc.etc) depends upon the rate of development at that time. Therefore, if at that period of we expose a child to negative events, the child will absorb negative effect due to which for that instant of time they may suffer from short term trauma but it will stay imbedded in their mind forever which may lead to serious psychological problem in future.

Necessity of parental guidance for a child……

Super vision of parents is necessary while a child is watching horror genre; they 

should guide what is good to watch n what is not. The CDs, DVDs and all those stuffs that contain those violent horror movies should keep out of reach from their children’s.

It’s Never Too Late

I failed, yes! I always failed at the beginning whenever I stepped into any new beginning….but giving up is not the true identity of a human being- this is what I always learnt from my parents. So I never gave up I always tried even some times more than twice.

Last year I completed my graduation and applied for masters in different universities but I couldn’t crack any of the entrances. I don’t blame anything or anyone for my failure but it’s only that I was incompetent and was not well prepared.

I was all shattered, lost confidence from myself and I started thinking that I will not able to fulfil my own dream, I can’t fight to reach my aim. May be I dreamt more than my capability. At that moment my loved one’s supported me a lot and told not to give up, to fight back till I survive because it’s never too late to achieve your dream. Then I decided to give the entrance again in the next year and meanwhile I did a professional course for one year.

This way I didn’t even realised how I came through the whole year and this year I again applied for masters in a reputed university and I cracked the entrance exam with really good grades. And I am so very happy and satisfied.

Now, I realised really it’s never too late to achieve your dream, to reach your aim.

So, friends/readers never give up in life. May be only a step further will be able to make you achieve your dream.

Language Evolution by Social Media

Now a days as we all know social media plays a great role in our daily life both personally and professionally. Social media not only have changed our life styles but also have modified our languages, added new words to our vocabulary and also have given new meaning to few old known words.

Pay attention to discussion in your social networking sites and you can spot emerging new words, new uses of words and may be even invent one yourself.

We all know-‘The word that surrounds us every day influences the word we use’. Therefore so much of new words we see in the screen of our P.Cs, lap tops, tablets and smartphones, are also influencing the words and language we use.

From the words Unfriend and Selfie, we can clearly see that how social media is having an impact on our languages plus how it is adding up new words to our vocabulary.

Language now is evolving partly through our interaction with technologies.

As the languages and words we use to communicate with each other over social media are more easy and flexible than that of the formal writings hence those are more accepted by us. The combination of informal, personal communication and the mass audience afforded by social media is the recipe for this rapid change.

We are quite familiar with the problems of word limit while we surf few of our favorite social sites from mobile, like on Twitter they help us make the most of our 140 characters. This problem of expressing our whole emotion and feeling in only 140 characters was fixed by using acronyms of lengthy word like- LOL (laugh out loud), ROFL (rolling on floor laughing), ASAP (as soon as possible) and there are many acronyms like these.

There is another way to express our feelings in less characters are Emoticons, i.e. J for smile, L for sad, :-D for happiness etc. this way this the help of emoticons and acronyms we do express our whole emotion even within few limited characters.

Social media like facebook has contributed a lot more than other social networking sites to offer up new meanings to some old familiar words such as friend, like, status, wall, timeline, page and profile.

The evolution of language became easier than ever in this era of social media. No longer had use of jargon, formal words are done recent days…even journalists also changed their language of writing from heavy formal word to the words easily accepted by the readers.

And yes, some of us despair at how use of this informal medium can lead to an equally casual attitude to grammar. But the truth is that social media is great for word geeks. It provides a rich playground for testing with, developing and undermining language.

Therefore using of social networking sites can also be a great way keep up with these changes, if some people feel left behind by all these changes.

How I Met Him…

It was raining heavily outside, after finishing our dinner I and my younger sis in our room were chitchatting about our friends…also we were discussing about what we did whole day and all etc. meanwhile my phone rang and I was sure about who’s on the other side. I picked up the phone and asked to call few min later.

After putting off the phone, we both went to maa like every day to wish her ‘Good Night’ and came back to our room. After a while my phone vibrated, I put it on vibration mode as my sister went to sleep so it’s better not to disturb her.

I received the call and headed towards the balcony which was attached to our bedroom.

A gentle and soft voice came from the other side…. ‘Hello…….hello!!!’.

I replied ‘Ya Dev, I can here you…… so tell me what you were going to tell me? For which you asked me to free myself from every work so that we can talk without any disturbance…..what’s the matter?'.

For few sec he kept numb then with hesitant voice he said ‘we can’t carry on any more, we have to end up our friendship here only’.

‘Oh please stop joking….am not in a mood to joke’, I said.

‘Am not joking, am serious’, he replied.

I said, ‘ok fine’ and disconnected the call and took a seat on the bean bag which was there at the corner. 

Then I keep on thinking why he said so??? After being in friendship for last six months, why dev is behaving like this?? Is it me or in any manner did I hurt him??

I was very disturbed and called him back to clear out why he wants to end our friendship.

He picked up the call as soon as the phone rang…. If am not wrong it was merely a single ring after which I heard his voice.. ‘Hello’.

‘Why you are behaving so insane? Why you want to end it up?’, I said

‘Because I don’t want things, turn to be difficult for you due to me’, he replied.

Now it was very much clear to me as he replied so, that why he want to end this up. It was nothing but due to few of our school mates who were against our friendship, were unnecessarily spreading bad rumors about me so that I quit my friendship with him. And the reason for doing such stuffs is nothing but they do not want me to come out from the old relationship.

I really didn’t care about what they say or what they feel, for me my friendship matter a lot. But being my well-wisher more over such a good friend he was concern about my image.

I replied him positively, ‘I don’t care, for me our friendship matters more than what people say’.

‘But this way it won’t work out, for our friendship I can’t let you down’, he replied strictly.

However honestly speaking I do not wanted to lose him and his friendship….at that moment I felt everything is going to end here. The  clock will stop striking, the earth will stop rotating therefore the dark phase of life started from now as there will be no sunshine anymore, the twittering of bird won’t ever be heard as there will no morning from now…

Somehow I managed to reply him in mushy voice, ‘I never want to lose you’.

‘Bip….bip…bip....’, he disconnected the phone.

Sitting on the balcony I was recollecting every memory with him. How we met? When we became friends? Etc.

I still remember those days, after going through a terrible relationship disaster it was more than impossible for me to be in this relationship anymore….. I was all broken and shattered. And was trying hard to come out from that relationship and pushing myself more into studies as this was a crucial year for me since I was in 12^th.

It was the month of June, one fine evening when I, my mom and my sis were having tea and cookies sitting at the balcony, suddenly my phone rang. I peeped at the screen of my mobile, and it was an unknown number.

I received the call with ‘Hello!’

From the other side an unfamiliar voice replied, ‘am Dev, your class mate hope, I didn’t disturbed you’

‘Oh! Ya dev, no not at all ’, I replied

‘I got your number from our biology teacher. And can you please bring your practical copy tomorrow as I missed few classes. I’ll just check what has been done in the previous classes ’, he said.

‘Ok, surely I will’, I said

‘Thanks, bye’……….’ya bye’ saying that we both disconnected the phone.

Though he was my class mate but this was the first time I talked to him. Firstly he was a new student; he joined our class at 11^th standard. Secondly, he is serious and reserved sort of a guy. Attending classes, staying busy with practical works, doing assignments was his nature. And am just opposite to him I was an old student from 5^th standard  I am in this school. I bunked  classes sometimes, was an average student all through but ya I never  use to bunk biology classes as it was my favorite subject in school.

May be that’s the reason ma’am recommended my biology copy to dev and gave my number to him.

Then next day I gave my copy to him and that was the day when we actually saw each other properly for the first time. After I came back home from school was watching TV, sitting on the couch and having my tiffin. At that time a message flash on the mobile screen with a bip sound. I saw the message it was a thank you message from dev.

This was how we started to conversing with each other. And slowly became friends.

In every difficulty he stood by me, every time he advised me and motivated me to stand strong against the odds of life to overcome them bravely, he also taught me to love myself.

I was deeply in my thoughts then suddenly I felt tears rolled down my cheeks, I wiped them gently and decided to call him back. It was 4:45am and I was sure that he also hasn't slept. Took up the phone and dialed his number, but he didn't received the call. Again I redialed, this time he disconnected the call without receiving it. Then after a while he called backed….

As soon as I received the call I haven’t left any scope for him to speak and said, ‘listen I don’t want to lose you, it doesn't matter to me what they think about me, for me you and our friendship matters the most. They are just a small chapter of my life, after few months which will be closed forever and I need you forever in my life till the last chapter of my life’.

On the other side he was all numb and didn't reply for few mints…

I said, ‘hey, are you there?’

‘Hmm’, he replied.

Then with a mawkish voice he said ‘I too never wanted to lose you ever in my life, you taught me to smile, you changed my life and made it beautiful, and you are blessings to me. I want to be happy n keep on smiling forever for which I need you beside me all through my life’.

‘Then why you were forcing me to go n end up everything here?’, I asked

 The reply was, ‘I do not want you to face such criticism and controversies so ending up our friendship will bring an end to everything….’

I said, ‘we haven’t met to end up things like this, but to walk a long distance together, side by side’

And this is how my love life opened its first chapter.

This year we are going to celebrate our 5^th love anniversary…and we are more than happy with each other. And I still thank him for giving meaning to my life, also for loving me so much.